Whether you have already found the right partner, or are looking in earnest, feng shui will make a positive difference with existing relationships or finding the right relationship.
How often have you, your friends or your children said, "I just can't seem to find the right person to settle down with and establish a home." Others say, "All the good ones are taken." I've even heard some say, "I've stopped looking because there is just no one out there for me."
Finding the right person to share your life with is not a simple or easy undertaking. There are a lot of things to consider besides the physical attributes and that magic thing called "chemistry."
On your list will be things such as trust, common values, moral and spiritual issues, respect, financial dealings and positive family interaction. I'm sure you will have numerous other things to add to the list. I'll leave that part up to you.
The one area people do not consider of value in this process is the energy in their personal surroundings.
Does your personal environment support you in your desire to have a permanent long-term relationship with the right partner? Are you sending the correct energy messages into the universe for the "right" person and the attributes he/she needs to have? Is it possible that you are doomed to fail even before you begin, because the energy in your surroundings does not support your desire?
Evaluate your existing surroundings
First, it is important for you to evaluate your current surroundings so that you can determine what message you are sending to a potential or existing partner.
Is your home overly masculine or feminine?
If you are a man, does everything in your home reek of independent, single male energy? Do all the pictures on your walls depict sporting events, trophies and typically "guy" type activities? Do any of them even remotely depict something indicative of an equal relationship and couple-ness?
If you are a woman, does your home reek of only female energy? Is your décor filled with fluffy, frilly things; pictures of women in 18th century period attire or feminine activities that do not include a partner?
In order to attract the right partner, the energy in your personal surroundings must support your desire. There should be a balance of the masculine and feminine energy of couple-ness.
Some of your wall décor, especially in your bedroom, needs to reflect couple-ness, togetherness and the union of two equal people with common goals, values and objectives. For example, put a picture in your bedroom of a couple walking hand-in-hand, a pair of Adirondack chairs or simply two hearts intertwined.
Create supportive relationship energy
Second, energize your surroundings to support your desires. According to feng shui principles, specific areas in the home need to be uncluttered and enhanced when it comes to relationships.
The following will help guide you in energizing your relationship energy.
. Totally un-clutter the southwest area of your bedroom, which is your relationship area. To energize the area, place something there that is symbolic for you of the kind of relationship you want.
Examples would be a picture of two people in a loving relationship, a sculpture of a loving couple or a beautiful bud vase filled with two of your favorite flowers in equal size.
.Un-clutter the northwest area of your bedroom, which is the helpful people area. When looking for the desired partner you need help from as many family members, friends and associates as possible.
Energize that area with something silver, such as a loving cup or picture framed in silver. The picture can be of a couple in a loving relationship, a winning team of people, such as Lance Armstrong with his bicycle team, or a verse that you create about friends and family helping you to find the perfect mate.
. Un-clutter the center area of your home. Place a candle there with two wicks in a safe container and burn it at least once every week for at least one hour. Do it more often, if you choose. By being in the center of your home, your relationship desire will also become the central energy of your surroundings.
Finding the right partner is no different in feng shui than focusing energy on other goals and objectives, such as good health or income. Decide that it is important enough to focus your energy on it regularly.
Once you've done that, make the necessary décor changes, un-clutter the appropriate areas of your bedroom and home and energize them as described.
These easy-to-make changes will help energize the relationship you want with existing or potential partners.
Pat Heydlauff is a feng shui consultant, public speaker, columnist and artist. For feng shui consultations and energy design work in the home or office call her at (561) 799-3443 or e-mail her, firstname.lastname@example.org or visit her Web site, www.energy-by-design.com.