By Andreas Butler
For Hometown News
Author and educator Stephanie Redd returned home to promote her book "Just because he says you're beautiful ... Five Things Every Head Smart/Heart Dumb-Girl Should Know."
A book signing was on March 4 at the Kale Café at 116 N. Beach St. in Daytona Beach.
Ms. Redd also mentored and lectured youngsters in the Rising Stars program through The Links Inc., a community outreach program at Tubman King Community Church on George W. Engram Boulevard, a few days earlier.
Her book is about dating and relationships. It focuses on five key lessons that the author learned from her mistakes including: 1) Just because he says you're beautiful doesn't mean that he's "The One", 2) "Dating" and "Being in a relationship" are two different things, 3) Even good guys can be players, 4) You don't have to sacrifice logic in the name of love, and 5) Being single is not the end of the world.
"I wrote it as a personal therapy for myself to clear my mind and heartache. I want to teach young girls and ladies from middle school up to college how to avoid the mistakes that I made. If they can't, I hope to give them a guide on how to get out of it," Ms. Redd said.
She lives in Austin, Texas, but grew up in Daytona Bea ch. She is a Mainland High School alumna.
Ms. Redd earned a bachelor's degree in business administration from Florida A&M University and a master's degree in merchandising from Florida State University.
She teaches fashion and business at the Art Institute of Austin, does a Head Smart/Heart-Dumb Girl Blog and serves as a life coach.
She is a former editor and reporter for the Daytona Times.
As an educator, Ms. Redd sees the problems young ladies face when it comes to dating and relationships.
"My students often come to me. I have also eavesdropped on their conversations about the boy or men trouble. I realize that they have some of the same questions that I had," she said.
Ms. Redd believes many young women need advice when dating.
"It's not talked about nearly enough. In my experience, when I was growing up, a lot of emphasizes was put on me becoming book smart, but not heart smart. I thought it was my responsibility to learn on my own. You often get hurt and scared. I figure somebody should tell their story and help somebody else," she said.
Ms. Redd acknowledges everyone gets his or her heartbroken.
"Everyone gets their heart broken, but not everyone tells their story. I realized as a teacher its good to share experiences to help others learn," she said.
The idea of the book came to Ms. Redd while out with a friend one night.
"We were at a jazz club in Austin. I had a crush on the trumpet player. During breaks, he kept coming to me and telling me how beautiful I was. Usually those compliments made me feel elated, but that night something changed. I was wondering what his motives were. When we left the club, I told my friend that I was going to write the book," Ms. Redd recalled.
The author wants men to know the book isn't an attack on them.
"It's not about bashing men. It puts the accountability on the girls and women. It tells females that the choices we make put us in the circumstances we are in. The ball is in our court. Blame doesn't start healing," Ms. Redd said.
For more about the book and the tour, visit the blog, HeadSmartHeartDumb.com. The book also is available at amazon.com and BarnesandNoble.com.